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When I was studying my final year of undergrad psychology, I contemplated doing my PhD, on either “clinical death experiences” or ”unrequited love” (no connection between the two, just fascinating topics!). My interest in the latter was purely experiential 😀 . I was finishing my fifth year at college and going through my 4th unrequited love crush😧 (one of my crushes had lasted 2 years). I never gave my friends permission to introduce me to my “crush of the year,” which meant, that all my love was expressed through my fantasies and love letters (which of course never reached the recipient🙃 ).

One day, I heard (from my sources) that the “love of my heart” was leaving to study overseas. I remember crying… practically the entire night that his flight was taking off 😭 … A week later, as I walked around college, disinterested in my surroundings, as there was no longer any chance of me getting a glimpse of my love😔 … I suddenly saw him😍 . Obviously, my source had incorrect information! I later learned that he had decided to continue his studies at our college itself. Oh, all those wasted tears 🤦‍♀️. And so my unrequited love story continued. Don’t get me wrong, I did have people interested in me… OK, I will be honest, a few😉 , but I was not interested in them🙃 …

Unlike me, GOD LOVES EVERYONE. He cannot help himself 😍 . He does not pick and choose.

That’s why the Trinity is three distinct persons in one. Because Love is not static, it has to flow between the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. That’s why God created human beings, so He could love us and we could love Him and this love just keeps flowing on 💓, as we procreate, through love, as part of God’s eternal plan…. And that’s why parents love, serve, protect, forgive and pick up their children no matter how many times they fall… even when children behave obnoxiously🙄 . We do this instinctively, after all… we are created in God’s image and likeness – LOVE. We love because He first loved us (1Jn 4:19).

I know many people in unrequited love marriages, because their spouse is in love with alcohol, money, their career, pornography, or another woman/man… and yet they persist…because LOVE CONQUERS ALL. Love is patient, love is kind… it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (1Cor13:4-8).

God is yearning for our love. He so desires that we read his love letters to us – the BIBLE. God is longing to be adored in the Blessed Sacrament, where He is waiting for us to at least say, “hi Jesus, it’s me your mate.”🤗 God is thirsting to be in complete union with us in Holy Communion, as often as is possible. God is craving for more than just a Sunday or Christmas or Easter date with us….


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When was the last time I said, ”Jesus, I love you too!” When was the last time I truly immersed myself in God’s love letters? And if I regularly do… if I am a faithful lover, then can I do a bit more? 🙏 Can I perhaps spend a little more time.. loving, praying, listening, reading, adoring, being in union with God… in reparation and atonement for those who do not?

Can I wipe away at least one tear… from the ocean of God’s tears… shed for the unrequited love of his beloved creation?

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